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  • When you live in the worst city in America, but you disagree

    Another year where I don’t live in any of the top 10 “Best Places to Live.” But I have lived in what one of those high-profile rankings called the worst.

    At least when it came to another annual outlook, from Money magazine.

    Waterbury, Connecticut, received the bottom-ranking, No. 300 out of 300 cities ranked, not once but twice when I lived there: 1991 and 1992. That was an affront to the city of 110,000, which is tucked away in the hills of Connecticut between Boston and New York City and has a large place in history. The Brass City, as it was called, was deeply upset by this indignity.

    As The New York Times put it in an article after the second ranking: “Wounded Waterbury: No Place to Go But Up.”

    I was living in Waterbury at the time and was an editor at the daily newspaper, the Waterbury Republican-American. It was, in fact, my first professional newspaper job. I remember how angry people were, in and out of the newsroom. There was a front-page reaction story, and an editorial about how wrong Money was. As I remember, it fed stories and the editorial page for a long time.

    I thought then, and now, that Waterbury was getting a raw deal.

    It was easy back then to dump on the industrial cities and towns of Connecticut, not only Waterbury but also Bridgeport, Torrington, New Britain, Naugatuck, Danbury and Meriden. The de-industrialization of the United States in the ’70s and ’80s left a lot of empty buildings and economic pain in its wake, and I saw it firsthand in Connecticut, which is my home state and where, between Connecticut and New York, I’ve spent half my life.

    So it was easy to say that Waterbury had seen better days, especially in the late ’80s and early ’90s. Drivers passing by Interstate 84, which cuts through Waterbury, probably had three overwhelming impressions back then: The big yellow cross of Holy Land USA that overlooked the eastern part of the city, the clock tower (modeled after Sienna’s and part of American literature, mentioned in “A Death of a Salesman”), and then the sprawling ruins of the brass plant that took up so much acreage in the middle of Waterbury.

    Yet few people would have given Waterbury higher marks over Bridgeport, about 20 miles down Route 8 and along the coast. Bridgeport had filed for bankruptcy, had been hit by crime and economic decline, and was an even more inviting target. (Bridgeport’s woes even made a laugh line or two in “Cheers,” where Cliff Clavin was played by a Bridgeport native, John Ratzenberger.) Yet Waterbury came up at the end of the line in the Money magazine rankings, not just once but twice.

    I’ve thought about Waterbury every time I see a “best/worst” cities ranking. I don’t have a problem with calling out the “best” of the many ways to look at a city or metro region. That’s a point of pride for many people, and it’s boring just to name San Diego No. 1 all the time. But the “worst” ranking, for Waterbury, was the worst, in my book.

    I’ve got a fond spot in my heart for Waterbury. It’s near where I grew up and I drove by there a lot, before and after I worked there. Waterbury doesn’t loom as large for me as New Haven does, but that’s because my parents both worked in New Haven and it’s where we naturally gravitated.

    I gained a better appreciation of it when I worked there, and got to know many of its people and understood its place in history. It was a great news city, then and now. The Waterbury Republican won a Pulitzer Prize for Public Service in 1940 covering mayoral corruption, of which it unfortunately has a history. Lots of stuff happened, good and bad, in Waterbury. And a colleague and friend of mine told me long ago that just about everything that happened in the world had a Waterbury connection. (He was right, but that’s another story.)

    I moved out of Waterbury and then the Naugatuck River Valley a few years later, and I have to say I haven’t been back as much as I would like. But Waterbury has often shown up in my life, even today, where I often professionally run into people who either were born and grew up there or have it on their resume. That’s not just where I live and work now, but all around the country. It’s amazing where you find Waterbury people.

    Waterbury itself has changed, too. The former manufacturing plants, which would sometimes catch fire and were almost always something people remembered about Waterbury, are long gone. They’ve been replaced for more than 20 years by a retail and entertainment complex known as Brass Mill Center that makes Waterbury a place people go.

    And in the end, more than 30 years later, I still don’t understand why Waterbury struck the bottom of the list two years in a row. I’ve traveled all over this country and found places that you would want to live, and others that maybe you wouldn’t. Things that you can’t necessarily find in a ranking or an algorithm. Just about everywhere has its good points and bad points.

    Waterbury was just being kicked when it was down.

  • One for the travel record books?

    I’m not planning to travel anywhere Memorial Day weekend. And it looks like that might be a good choice.

    The post pandemic travel boom is set to heat up further this Memorial Day weekend, with AAA Travel forecasting 7.7% more travelers on the road, rails and air than in 2022.

    And it goes on from there.

    “This summer travel season could be one for the record books, especially at airports,” said AAA SVP Paula Twidale.

    Airports could be the busiest they’ve been since 2005.

    Yikes.

    I took two sets of flights in 2022, both in the spring and summer, one overseas and the other domestically. My traveling back from the United Kingdom took place Memorial Day week, and it was a doozy. And that’s even with my booking my flights back home the day after Memorial Day to avoid the crowds.

    That only worked a little. I got to where I was going, only a little later than I expected. But it was a stressful trip nonetheless.

    Why? Flying from London to New York took up all the time I had planned, and I plan a lot. Whenever I can, I try to arrive at the airport two to three hours ahead of time and if I am going anywhere that requires a change in planes (and that’s relatively often, given I no longer live in New York), I try to leave an equal amount of time at least in between flights. Sure, that means that I wait around the airport longer and I also spend more time in total traveling.

    But it’s better than missing a flight. I did that, years ago, due to weather, and it took a plane, train and two automobiles — plus a hotel room and a 30-hour odyssey — to get back from Chicago to New York after a flight from Dallas.

    So I try to avoid that when I can.

    Traveling since the end of the pandemic has had its own challenges. I flew the week after the mask mandate was removed — although I kept one on the whole time — but the volumes were so heavy that it didn’t seem to make much of a difference. There were a lot of people traveling in that late spring and summer of 2022, probably like me having waited until then to do so.

    There were delays with the inbound jet at Heathrow, delays taxiing at JFK, delays at the baggage screening, delays at customs, delays at security. I had four hours’ in between flights, and I barely made my flight out of JFK back to my home city.

    So this year, I stay home. I have another trip to do by the end of this year, related to a writing project I’m doing. I had planned to go earlier this spring, then postponed it near to the last minute. I’m only going to archives and libraries, so it doesn’t matter when I go. Traveling in the summer, and paying high rates for lodging and airfare, won’t make a spec of difference since I will barely see daylight.

    And I’m OK with waiting.

  • Allergic to everything green

    Protip: Don’t ever stop taking allergy medication until the season is through.

    I learned this lesson the hard way, just recently. I had run out of my Zyrtec — my entire household takes it from March through June — and I hadn’t gotten to the store by the time evening came around.

    No worries, I thought. Zyrtec takes a while to build up so maybe missing a day won’t be so bad. There will still be some left anti-allergy-ness left in me, right?

    I woke up sneezing, coughing and with a sore throat.

    Not for the first time, my lack of medical knowledge and common sense failed me.

    I rushed out and got a refill, which took another few days before I was out of the watery eye/sneezing/coughing zone. But it got me thinking about how dependent I’ve become on my allergy meds.

    From the moment I remember drawing a breath — decades and decades ago — I’ve had allergies. Spring was my least favorite season because it would signify how miserably sick I was going to be for several weeks running. My eyes would water and burn. My nose would keep running, and I’d have to carry a small box of Kleenex with me. Sometimes my throat would hurt. And I’d cough, for weeks on end.

    Back then, when I was a kid, there wasn’t much of a chance to treat it, either. I would take Benadryl, which would make me sleepy, or another anti-histamine. Doctors would not have any idea what to do, other than to soldier through it and wait for June.

    “You’re basically allergic to everything green,” one doctor told me. Having childhood asthma didn’t help, either.

    I went to an allergist, but there wasn’t much to do. It wasn’t until the ’90s when Zyrtec (cetizirine) came out that I began to get relief, although it took a few years before I got a prescription. And then it wasn’t until 2007 when it began to be available without a prescription.

    Now, I take it from March through June and then again in hay fever season, August and September. I know it takes time to build up in your system, so I get out ahead of any potential pollen and allergen by taking it long before the buds begin. This year, I was in Florida in late February so I started even earlier than I would.

    So far in my second course of allergy medicine, I’m doing OK. I woke up this morning with a fit of sneezing and coughing, but that went away. I expect that it will only be another month or so and then I’ll be able to stop the meds until ragweed season, which I started getting allergic to about a decade ago.

    Can’t wait.

  • ‘The greatest pilot anyone had ever seen’

    Sixty years ago today, immortalized in one of my favorite flicks, “The Right Stuff,” and one of my fav movie endings ever, with the actual film of Faith 7’s launch and the late, great Levon Helm’s voiceover:

    “On that glorious day in May 15, 1963, Gordon Cooper went higher, farther, and faster than any other American. He was the last American ever to go into space alone. And, for a brief moment, Gordo Cooper became the greatest pilot anyone had ever seen.”

    And if you haven’t ever seen it, “The Right Stuff” has Sam Shepard, Ed Harris, Fred Ward, Dennis Quaid, Harry Shearer, Jeff Goldblum, Levon Helm and Eric Sevareid in an epic and true adventure, beautifully acted, written and filmed. Walking around the Mercury launchpads when I visited Cape Canaveral was truly a heady experience.

    When I saw this movie with my stepfather at the Mission Valley theatres in San DIego in the fall of ‘83, after devouring Tom Wolfe’s book that summer, the Mercury program was only 20 years before and all of the 7 but Grissom were still alive. Now they are all gone, and even a number of the actors – Shepard, Helm, Sevareid, and last year, Fred Ward.

    I highly recommend “The Right Stuff,” which was directed by Philip Kaufman. and this clip uses a lot of the Faith 7 footage to great effect. And Bill Conti’s score, along with the credits rolling as Faith 7 streaks upward through the sky, it’s one of the most rousing endings to a movie I’ve ever seen.

  • Missing Eurovision

    Eurovision. I’m sorry I missed it this year.

    The last two years I have watched the live telecast from here in the United States, both times live updating with my European friends via WhatsApp where the contest went late in to the night but was over around dinner time here on the East Coast.

    I even got my kids to watch and root for their favorites. We had fun.

    But this year I knew Eurovision was going on and so wanted to see it, but life got in the way. I spent this whole afternoon not in front of the TV or glued to Twitter – I am not doing that anymore – but instead shuttling kids from place to place or spending time with the family. I didn’t even have a spare moment to give to Eurovision, which saddens me.

    It’s pretty fun.

  • The West Wing bipartisanship

    “The West Wing” lost me after its second year, when my personal and work life became much more complicated and busy. But I got a chance to see the last year and it was fascinating to see how it was being transitioned. I would have liked to see the first term of President Santos.

    And this is a great scene, with Jimmy Smits and Alan Alda showing what bipartisanship really looks like. Too bad it’s fiction.

  • It was just too soon to tell

    One of my favorite songs of the ‘90s came early in the decade. In fact, it was released in late ‘89 although it didn’t get to the charts until January 1990.

    So that counts!

    Not going to say that I enjoyed the music scene in the ‘90s. I didn’t. It was the beginning of the end of paying attention to popular music, or as much as I did at the time. And after the ‘80s, where my musical tastes flowered, the ‘90s were kind of a letdown.

    But Michael Penn’s “No Myth” was an exception. It’s a great song, his only top 40 hit, and a smart and catchy pop song. I loved it the moment I heard “No Myth,” and I love it still.

    Who hasn’t wondered what could have been? “What if I were Romeo in black jeans, what if so were Heathcliffe, it’s no myth …”

    I’m not either, nor have I ever been.

    It went all the way to No. 13 on the Billboard Top 100.

    Some great lines, too: “We said goodbye before hello/My secrets she will never know” is only one of them.

  • One cool device from history

    I was going through a thrift shop the other day when I saw something that I hadn’t ever seen before: A nearly century-old air conditioner.

    Yep, that’s right. A nearly century-old air conditioner.

    I collect old radios, so every once in a while I’ll stop by places to see if there are any of interest. The thrift shop looked promising, although I didn’t find any radios. Instead, sitting on a table, was a two-foot by one-foot walnut cabinet with four panels and an electric plug. Like vintage radios I have seen, it, too was made by Philco, a long ago manufacturer of radios, TVs and, I guess, air conditioners.

    All for $300. I didn’t plug it in to see if it still had some Depression-air cooling inside: I know enough about electrical devices not to plug them in without taking safety precautions. That’s for the experts, of which I’m certainly not one.

    The tag said it was from 1931, although doing a quick search through the web, it might be a little younger than that. The brand name remains — it’s owned by Philips — but the company itself is long gone.

    Which got me thinking: How old are air conditioners?

    Pretty old, turns out. The first air conditioner was made in 1902 by Willis Carrier, whose name would go on to be on untold millions of air conditioners. The name air conditioner wouldn’t come about until 1906 and it wouldn’t be until 1929 that the first room-sized air conditioner would be out. The first window unit would come in the early 1930s but they would be too expensive until the late 1940s, according to the U.S. Department of Energy.

    The more you know.

    In any event, I passed up the chance to buy some air conditioning history.

  • A coronation-free zone

    Yes, I have been to Westminster Abbey. I have studied the various kings and queens of England. I have even seen the Crown Jewels at the Tower of London.

    That still doesn’t mean I give a tosh about the coronation if King Charles III. And a report from over on this side of the Atlantic, I haven’t heard anyone talking about it.

    Just let me know when I can listen to the BBC again.

  • A door closes on the pandemic

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    Another chapter is closing on the Covid-19 pandemic.

    The World Health Organization announced Friday an end to the global public health emergency that it put into place in January 2020, back when the virus was rushing through Wuhan, China, and about to explode elsewhere in the world. Since then, at least 7 million people have died and the top WHO official said probably 20 million people died in the last three years of Covid-19.

    Add to that the U.S. is going to be ending its public health emergency next week, and it’s clear we’ve turned a corner on Covid-19.

    Some would say that we reached that point a long time ago. Others would say it’s too early, that Covid is still a big threat to public health.

    I look at my own life and find that I fall somewhere in between. I cover health care in my job as a journalist, and it’s true that Covid-19 just doesn’t come up as much as it did even a year ago. There are still people getting the virus, there are still people being hospitalized, and there are still people dying from it. But, according to several physicians and hospital executives I’ve talked to, the situation is nowhere near as dire as it was even a year or so ago.

    And that makes sense. There’s a level of immunity in the world now. I know a lot of people who have had Covid, some multiple times. There have also now been two vaccination rounds, one for the original and the other for the next-generation variants. And there is still treatment that works in many cases to keep most people with Covid-19 alive. I say “in many cases” because treatment doesn’t always work, sadly. I think we all know that in our own lives.

    A year ago, I was masking all the time and had just received my third booster shot. I wasn’t in the office that much at that point, although I was coming back more often, and I always wore a mask. I was out in the world, whether it was for work or personal time. But I was still careful. I even flew to the United Kingdom and spent eight days there a year ago, and I tested constantly (you had to still get a negative test to re-enter the country then) as well as wearing a mask all but outside and one time with friends at dinner. Beyond that, I ate outside or, in one case, ate on an off-hour and well away from others.

    I stuck to that for the most part through the summer of 2022. But in September, when I received the bivalent booster (apparently being one of the few to receive it), something changed. I started to relax more. I knew I was still at risk to get Covid-19. But I also realized that, at some point, I needed to get back to living. I stopped using masks at work. I stopped using them when I was out. I avoided people who were sick — that’s just good practice anyway — but I didn’t constantly think about Covid.

    People around me would say that I was late to that party. Where I live, it has been a long time since people took a lot of precautions, maybe as far back as the summer of 2020 and certainly before the vaccines were out in the winter of 2021. I thought that was unwise. But gradually through 2021 and 2022 I saw more people/most people going through their lives without taking many or any precautions.

    And gradually, I did, too.

    That makes me relieved but it also makes me feel guilty. One person I know died of Covid in the early months, and many others have been sickened and some have long Covid. There’s no denying that millions of people around the world have died from Covid, and the pandemic changed so many things. Hospitals, and health care workers, will never be the same. They deserve all the credit in the world for what they did, going to work not only in battle conditions but also at the risk of their health and their families.

    But I feel guilty because of how the world changed and how many people were taken from us. It’s not a political thing for me. It’s a human thing.

    And there’s also the fact that governments and WHO can declare the pandemic emergency over. But that doesn’t mean that it is. Covid will be with us for the long term, just as the flu and the common cold are. I fear that we’re not ready for the next pandemic, and there are structural problems that experts say continue to be out there, hamstringing us.

    Or as Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, the director of WHO said today:

    “This virus is hear to stay. It’s still killing and it’s still changing.”

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Journalist and writer. Loves writing, storytelling, books, typewriters. Always trying to find my line. Oh, and here’s where I am now.

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